Team Building Activity SAKSOON travel June 2015

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Live and Let Live Versus Wanting People to Live Like Us

In human interaction, the first principle to follow is to speak respectfully to gain the respect of others in order for us to effectively communicating  with them. When we speak to people rudely, harshly, impatiently, we vibrant negative feelings and vibrations. Such negative vibrations  will affect the other person’s feelings and emotions. Such negative vibrations will then hit back on us. In such situation, there will be no “Effective Communication” except verbal noises.

Words like’Please’, ‘Thank You’, ‘I am sorry’ will help to bridge our communication; sarcastically nagging others, inaccurate assumptions, unwilling to understand others will either cause others to ignore what we said and remain silence or provoke verbal combating.

In communication, we can make our request but not demand; we can suggest but not insist; we can propose but not impose on others of what we want of them to do. The first hurdle in effective communication is to gain people’s respect and cooperation.

No one in this world lives just because of us. When we expect others to live our ways or our terms or our standards  of life, what we get is only frustrations.

A frustrated person can never be a happy person at least 80% of the day. Then who on earth would want to listen to and follow the command of such a frustrated person? Once we cannot get others to obey us, we become even more frustrated and thus can even live a full day of of misery life. This sort of life will repeat itself till the day we die or till the day we decide to let others their live their lives and ours our terms.

Just to be reminded that we ourselves do not belong to us, our spouse, our children do not belong to us; they belong to the natural phenomena of the nature. They come, they disintegrate. Claim not they are ours, cling not to them as ours. As a human being, in the process of living, we grow, we serve and we live a fulfilled and purposeful life that are within our grasp and control. Life is meant to be lived in a simple and purposeful manner.

May we invoke the divine forces to help those who live in misery to become aware that such misery is nothing but self-made, and may they develop the wisdom from within to see this simple truth about the reality of existence of life. May such individuals become wise, well, happy and live a fulfilled and purposeful life.

Dr. Stanley Cham

3rd Sept 2015

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Teamwork 团队 Calmness 淡定 Persistence 坚强 Faith 信念 Dreams梦想

员工越换越优秀

管理者不要害怕员工离开,负面的员工不换掉,弊大于利,状态不好的员工不空出来,状态好的员工就无法进来。

一个员工轻易离开团队,是没有责任心的表现。哪个团队都有问题,哪个团队都有优点,如果稍有不顺或诱惑,就轻易动摇,无论怎样,这种人是不能托付重任的。

抱怨和埋怨团队就是打自己耳光,说自己无能,更是在放弃机会!

过河拆桥的员工不可能心怀感恩之心,不要留。创造利润是你存在的核心价值,创业不是做慈善。

遇到外界的压力就想逃,这样的员工留了是风险,遇到问题请先思考,只反映问题是初级水平,思考并解决问题才是高级水平。

要跟这样的人合作

1、 能始终跟着团队一起成长的人。

2、 对团队的前景始终看好的人。

3、 在团队不断的探索中能找到自己位置的人。

4、 为了团队新的目标不断学习新东西的人。

5、 抗压能力强且有耐性的人。

6、 与团队同心同德、同舟共济、同甘共苦的,不计较个人得失,顾全大局的人。

一个团队五种人
1、【人渣】
就是牢骚抱怨、无事生非,拉帮结派,挑起事端、吃里扒外的破坏分子;

2、【人员】
就是只领工资不爱做事,安排与自己无关的工作不愿干,属庸人之列;

3、【人手】
就是安排什么做什么,不安排绝对不做,等着下命令的人;

4、【人才】
就是每天发自内心做事,做事有责任、有思路、有条理,知道公司的事做好了,受益的是自己,同时真心为公司操心的人;

5、【人物】
就是全身心投入,用灵魂去思考、做事,决心要和企业做一番事业的人!

人员斤斤计较,人手需要引导,人才关注当下,人物放眼未来!发展要靠人才,做大要靠人物!

什么团队将无所不能

一个字:干。
二个字:主动。
三个字:让我来。
四个字:积极思考。
五个字:责任是我的。
六个字:有谁需要帮助。
七个字:目标一定会实现。
八个字:一切的工作为了爱。
九个字:我要成为多给予的人。
十个字:只有结果才能证明实力。

告诉自己五个答案

1.什么叫梦想?

朝思暮想、做梦都想、时刻都想,而且一想起就热血沸腾,那才叫梦想!

2.什么叫信念?

经历过冷嘲热讽、人情冷漠、三番四次的跌倒打击、几乎绝望的境地且还咬牙前行,那才叫信念!

3.什么叫坚强?

经历过半夜抱头痛哭、经历过内心的孤寂与寒冷而依然坚定初衷,那才叫坚强!

4.什么叫淡定?

面对诱惑而毫不动心、面对打击而面不改色,纵然困难重重也微笑前进,那才叫淡定!

5.什么叫团队?

一起经历过风雨洗礼、跌宕起伏、浴血奋战、荣辱与共、艰难困境,依然迎难而上,创造奇迹,那才叫团队!

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Half an hour before sleep – Meditate

你如果睡觉前,坐上半个小时的功,你睡觉时连做梦都是轻松的梦,醒了以后,特别清醒,特别轻松。这样就会大大提高你的生活和工作效率。
You will have very relaxed dream, if you meditate for half an hour before you sleep.  When you wake up, you will feel clear headed and extremely relax. In this way, the efficiency in your life and work will be raised tremendously.  1

金菩提上师智慧法语之163:
你如果睡觉前,坐上半个小时的功,你睡觉时连做梦都是轻松的梦,醒了以后,特别清醒,特别轻松。这样就会大大提高你的生活和工作效率。You will have very relaxed dream, if you meditate for half an hour before you sleep.  When you wake up, you will feel clear headed and extremely relax. In this way, the efficiency in your life and work will be raised tremendously.  (译:B)

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Talk and Communicating

Talking involves just one party, the person often love to talk and talk his or her way through, especially the negative people while communicating involving at least two parties with the intention to ensure messages are well received and perceived by the intended parties.

The 2 basic key values in communicating are understanding and mutual respect, without these 2 values, there is no effective communication but only talking and blaming.

Feeling of the communicatees matter most. How much the communicator understands the feelings and the psychology of the of the communicatees and not so much of how much the communicatees understand the communicator.

Effective communication involves further the execution and the monitoring of what has been communicated.

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Living and Confronting Life

Always welcome the challenges and ‘problems’ of Life;
For they can be our true teachers for us to learn from.
If we do not perceived them with negativities then it will cease to be a problem;
For problem is only a problem if we perceived them with negativities.
Have goodness of heart to perceive them with wholesomeness then all
problems can be turned around to become a blessing in disguise for us all.

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The Mind The Nature

心如工畫師,能畫諸世間 The mind is like an artist Who can depict anything in the world

若人知心行,普造諸世間 If a person knows the mind’s activities can create everything in the world

本自清淨;本不生滅;能生萬法。

The self-nature is originally pure in itself.

The self-nature is originally neither produced nor destroyed.

The self-nature can produce the ten thousand dharma.

真認自己錯,莫論他人非;

他非即我非,同體名大悲。

Truly recognize your own faults; accuse not others’ faults; others’ faults are but our attractions. Being empathizing with what has happened and learn valuable life lessons  from  it is called Great Compassion.

Message:

Nothing in life comes by accident, everything that comes to us is due to our attractions from time beginning.  Blame not and accept them wholeheartedly and move on with our life wholesomely. Good begets good, bad begets bad, the law of nature favors no one. We can’t change the past, the only that is within our control is to ensure that every thought, word or action now on while we are still alive is a wholesome one; we cannot change others, we can choose to mindfully manage our deeds. May we all vibrant more wholesome energy instead of unwholesome one. May we be compassion, wise, prosperous and healthy always.

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Self-awareness for Growth

1. The Highly Commercialized World

We are living in a highly commercialized world with plentiful of unethical business innovators and business people who primary aim is after MONEY. The world is at powerful control of the Powerful Manipulative Politicians and Capitalists who do not care a dam of our survival or health. They are powerful and great marketers.

2. Choices, Confusions and Opportunities

Living in a world of plentiful choices, people at large have become more and more ignorance of the reality and the truth. Choices create confusions; confusions give rise to opportunities for manipulations of the Powerful Expert Manipulators. Knowledge and information is unlimited. With limited life resources we have, it is impossible for us to fully aware the manipulative world that we are living in.

3. Wisdom to Love and Grow Ourselves and Serve Humanity Ethically

  • Take good care of our health – the greatest gift to humanity

-       Eat, drink and breath what we need; avoid self-inflicted potentially dangerous processed goods

-       Listen to the messages send by our body, seek the advices of people who truly care for care us

  • Know our Roles

-       Know our primary roles at various stages of life, stay focus and deliver it to our very best possibility, there is time for everything, avoid the temptations short-circuit life, it will only destroy our future, there is no free lunch over the long-term. Our values in life is greatly based on the foundation we have made during our forming years

  • Choose and Position ourselves Wisely based on Wholesome Values

-       Do not get involve in trade and things that endanger lives and families – ours and others

-       Be knowledgeable and be an expert in whatever we choose to do, most importantly be trustworthy. Be a man of value more than a man of success.

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萬事惟人自召

不要老自以为是,

觉得自己能幹,

自己运气好,

自己聪朋,

觉得爸妈思想古老,不管用,愚痴。

做人耍懂得慚愧,懂得羞耻,懂得谦虚!

魔和佛是一不是二

心理有魔就招魔來教育你

心理有觉悟就招佛來教育你

萬事惟人自召!

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做人的五倫十義

五倫十

倫是倫理、是倫常。社會有社會的倫理道德,世間也有世間的倫理道德,家庭也有家庭的倫理道德。這是首先教我們做一個好人的標準就是這四個字 -五倫十

五倫是夫婦、父子、兄弟、君臣、朋友,構成了五倫。你怎麼樣做人,你自己要知道你是什麼樣的身分。夫妻相處,你是丈夫的身分,或者你是妻子的身分。家庭裏面,你是父母的身分,或者是子女的身分,或者你是兄弟的身分。走進社會,與你交往的朋友的身分。

你在社會上工作,決定有領導與被領導。你要是一個公司的老闆,你就是君,領導。你屬下的那些員工,就是臣,被領導。所以一個人在社會上,最重要的是要知道自己是什麼身分。明白人都瞭解這個事實真相—人生如戲,就像唱一台戲一樣。你在這個戲臺上,扮演是什麼角色,這個五倫就是角色。怎麼樣把這個角色演好,那就叫盡分。分是什麼?本分。

五倫有十義。在義務上講,十種義務。你是夫婦,丈夫要講義氣、講道義。妻子要聽。夫義,婦就聽。現在家庭出了大問題了,問題出在丈夫不義,太太不聽!家庭,家庭問題也來了,父不慈,子就不孝。兄不友,弟就不恭。換句話說,現在我們許多人不曉得自己在這個人生舞臺上,扮演的是什麼角色?也不知道自己應該去幹些什麼?中國古時候的教育,佛法的教育,是教你怎麼做人,所以中國的教育是倫常的教育。這個家庭才和睦,社會才和諧,大家互助合作,共存共融,達到究竟圓滿的幸福,這是教育的目標。

現在社會,講求的是技術,把做人這個事情忘掉了。科技不斷的在發達,人文逐漸的低落。低落到最後,人與禽獸幾希。人跟禽獸不一樣的,就是人接受過倫理教育;如果沒有倫理教育,人跟禽獸有什麼兩樣?

五倫十義這十種義務,不能不講求。人人都知道自己本分,都遵守自己的義務,這一台戲就唱好了,你這一生就有價值、就有意義。因為你把這一台戲唱好,你要知道你影響多少人?別人的家庭要有了問題了,向你看齊,向你學習,你是社會的大導師。社會大導師,在佛法裏面講,你就是真正的佛菩薩,你來救度這些眾生,眾生迷失了自己。什麼叫迷失了自己?不知道自己的身分,不知道自己應該幹的事情,這就是迷失了自己。

做人基本原則講五常,常是什麼?常是永遠不能變更的。這個是十種義務裏面的精華,仁、義、禮、智、信,這就是人跟禽獸不一樣的地方。人懂得這五種常道,是你自性裏頭本來具足的,不是學來的。仁是愛人,推己及人。想到自己就會想到別人,「己所不欲,勿施於人」,這是仁心。仁這個字是二人,可見得他不是獨尊,不是完全為自己。自己想到什麼,立刻就想到別人。這是一樁好事情,我自己想得到,同時我想到別人也會想得到。這是一樁不善的事情,我不想得到,我也會想到別人也不想得到。這一種心就叫做仁心,常常能夠推己及人。

義是義務,義務裏面不講權利,不講講報酬。為家庭、為社會、為國家、為一切眾生,我們只講盡義務,不講享權利。明白這個道理,社會上爭權奪利的現象就沒有了,天下就太平了。要從我本身做起。

禮是處事待人接物都有個分寸,不能過之也不能不及。換句話說,處事待人接物,你都能夠做到恰到好處,這個叫禮。我們今天講分寸,就是節度,不超過也不能不及,恰到好處。

智是理智,不能感情用事,感情用事就壞了。佛法重視智慧,儒家教學也重視。無論在什麼時候,順境也好,逆境也好,處事待人接物要理性,不可以動感情。

信是信用,對人決定要講信用。信用就沒有了,你在這個社會就行不通了。

這個禮義仁智信,是做人的基本條件。這個做人人格,什麼叫做人的資格?做人的資格就這五條。這個五條跟佛家的五戒,精神非常接近。

不殺生,仁;

不偷盜,義;

不邪淫,禮;

不抽烟飲酒,智;

不妄語,信。

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